What is Self-Love?
We hear people discussing self-love in ordinary conversations nowadays; we hear and read about self-love. We often come across subjects whose primary intention is to humour us in loving ourselves but what is self-love?
Self-love is known to be a basic human essential, something that is a necessity for one’s well-being. It is about NOT sacrificing or neglecting yourself or your happiness for others. It is all about your prosperity being your priority. It teaches us to not agree short of what you merit. Self-love is a condition of thankfulness towards oneself that develops from activities that help our physical, mental, and spiritual development. It is tied in with esteeming yourself as a person who is deserving of affection and regard.
Self-love implies putting confidence in yourself as you are right now for all that you are. Self-love has often been mistaken for egotism, narcissism, and conceitedness but that’s not what self-love is, it doesn’t mean that you believe you’re some deity or that you’re the sharpest, generally capable, and most wonderful individual on the planet. In lieu when you adore yourself you acknowledge your shortcomings, as these purported weaknesses as something that makes you what your identity is.
“You are impatient, permanently, and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful” -Amy Bloom
Self-love isn’t something you can learn in a day or two, or by reading some quotes and books. It is a practice that takes time, it is an effort you have to put for yourself, for your well-being. It is a feeling and aura of bliss and ecstasy within yourself for which you have to work; for which you have to start being kind to yourself, for which you have to be considerate towards yourself. It takes a lot of effort for a person to start loving themself but it is all worth the effort because as I mentioned above self-love is essential for us to have a satiated life.
There is a profusion of steps that leads a person towards self-love. However, for start it would be:
-Being kind to yourself
-Giving importance to yourself
-Listening to yourself
-Giving yourself time
-Trusting yourself
-Prioritizing yourself
-Knowing yourself
-Taking care of your health and well-being
-Giving yourself breaks
As stated by Rupi Kaur,
“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you”.
Self-love refers to being infatuated with personality, yourself yet additionally trying to improve as a rendition of yourself. When you are your priority then you make choices that nurture you and help you in becoming a better version of yourself. Self-love makes a person support oneself daily through solid exercises; like solid sustenance, legitimate rest, workout, and sound social relations. It rouses a person to settle on sound decisions throughout everyday life. As Lucille Ball once said,
“Love yourself first and everything falls into line. You have to love yourself to get anything done in this world”.
Loving yourself isn’t about what you want but what you need, what your body needs, what your soul needs, what your mind needs; it’s about nourishing yourself and preparing yourself for the long run that is life. However, you can also reward yourself for being so good towards your needs. By rewarding yourself, I mean take yourself on vacations to your favourite places, give yourself your favourite food sometimes, or reward yourself with your favourite things. We often do these acts for others but we do not care about ourselves, how many times have you rewarded yourself with something it deserves? Let me guess; not many, or maybe never. But it’s never too late.
“Be healthy and take care of yourself, but be happy with the beautiful things that make you, YOU” -Beyoncé
